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Abusers can track your computer activity. If you are in danger, please call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE). And consider using a safer computer such as one from the library or a friend's house.

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  • Dial 911.
  • Contact a victims of crime organization or crisis hot-line.
  • Cut ties with your stalker. You can talk with an advocate
  • Ask a professional, family member, and/or friend to help you create a safety plan.
  • Document your experience as accurately as possible.
  • File a restraining order on the stalker. http://www.deafdawn.org/

Planning for Safety

  • Use a P.O. Box for all your mail.
  • Inform everyone who bills you (i.e. credit card, phone, electric, etc. companies) of your address change.
  • Do not include your name on the tenants' list posted at the entrance of your apartment building.
  • Do not include your home address on business cards, stationary, and checks.
  • Use credit bureaus to monitor and prevent any tampering of your accounts.

Take personal and family precautions:

  • Do not list your phone number and address in any directories. Be very selective with those you give your phone number and address to.
  • Do not share your address while speaking on the phone.
  • If your stalker gets your phone number, than get an additional phone number and make sure the first one is connected to a voice mail which can be used to document all the stalker's calls.
  • Do not call 800, 888, 877, and 900 phone numbers because they use services that record telephone numbers.
  • Protect the physical phone wiring (that enters your home) from any tampering.
  • Ask family, friends, co-workers, etc., for support and give them information about the stalker so they know how to identify him/her.
  • Use an air horn if necessary.
  • Change up your routines and schedules week to week.
  • Plan for worse case scenarios by knowing where safe and major public spaces (i.e. police station, malls, etc.) are and go there in case of an emergency.
  • Use parking lots that are safe and secure. Do not use valet parking.
  • Before entering your car, make sure no one is in it.
  • Use a gas cap that can be locked and unlocked from inside the car.
  • If you want to help someone on the road who has car problems, call someone else to help them (not you).
  • When at work, ensure all packages and guests go through reception area; your parking space (if you have one) does not have your name on it; and all calls are screened (if necessary).
  • Be aware of your surroundings and check to see if anyone is following you.

If you have children, consider taking the following steps:

  • Teach them not to talk to strangers.
  • Make sure you or someone you trust takes your children to where they need to be.
  • Inform school authorities of any restraining orders.
  • Keep a track of all adults who interact with your children.
  • Make the following improvements to your home and install: wide-angle peephole door viewers on major doors; ample lighting outside and around the house (ex. porch light); dead bolt locks; locks on gate fences and the fuse box; an alarm system connected to a security company or the police; fire extinguishers and smoke detectors; timers for lights and the TV (to use when you are away for the evening); and ladders or ropes (for two-story homes).
  • Lock house doors, garage doors, and windows.
  • Trim trees and bushes thin and short enough so that no one can hide behind them. Clear the path so that you and your children can see.
  • Get a dog if possible.
  • Keep emergency phone numbers handy.
  • Create an evacuation plan and make sure everyone in the house knows what to do in an emergency. http://stalkingvictims.com/stalking-101/