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If you suspect your teen may be in an abusive relationship, there are ways where you can get support. There is also information on what are healthy and unhealthy relationships for you to learn and share with your teen. Below is a checklist to determine warning signs if your teenager may be in an abusive relationship.

What are some signs that may indicate my teen is in an abusive relationship?

  • Your teen has a very jealous boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • Your teen experiences a lot of put-downs and other verbal abuse.
  • Your teen spends less time with family, friends, and her/his personal interests.
  • Your teen gets physically hurt.
  • Your teen's girlfriend or boyfriend has a pattern of harming others.

What can you do as a parent?

  • Show your teen that you care.
  • Assure your teen that she/he can choose to stop the abuse.
  • Help them create and follow a safety plan.
  • Help your teen get professional help.
  • Do not blame your teen.
  • Tell them they are not responsible for the abuse.
  • Provide non-judgmental support.